The Challenge to Peacemaking
Understanding the Nature of Conflict

To Damage or Strengthen Relationships

No matter the reason for the conflict you are facing – hurt feelings, misunderstandings, communication breakdowns, unfulfilled or unexpressed expectations, differences in values and goals, competition over limited resources, unmet human needs – the Bible summarizes them all in James 4:1-2, "What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don't they come from your desires that battle within you. You want something but don't get it." (NIV)

How we choose to respond to conflict makes all the difference!

Consider "The Slippery Slope" of Conflict Response and Resolution
  • The "Slippery Slope" below reflects the range of responses people have to conflict, typically beginning with escape responses (peace faking) such as denial and flight, but often moving all the way to attack responses (peace breaking) which include litigation and violence.
  • The key to navigating this slope is to handle conflict well; approaching it with an open mind and recognizing that conflict is part of our every day life. Conflict provides us opportunities to pursue rather than avoid; to grow rather than remain static.
  • Conciliation (peacemaking) is at the top of the slope, and includes responses such as overlooking minor offenses, reconciliation, negotiation, mediation, arbitration, and accountability. These are ways you can productively and peacefully approach and resolve conflict.

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